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How Self-Compassionate Are you?


Answer 3 questions below to find out!


The path to self-compassion often begins with an objective assessment of how self-compassionate or not we are.  The Self-Compassion Scale measures the degree to which people show self-kindness or harsh self-judgment, have a sense of common humanity or feel isolated by their imperfection, and are mindful of or over identify with their suffering.  Most research uses this scale to measure self-compassion and determine its link to well-being.


Take the test to find out how self-compassionate you are.


This is an adapted version of the short form of the Self-Compassion Scale.  If you would like to try the full Self-Compassion Scale and have your results calculated for you, go to


The following statements describe how you usually act towards yourself in difficult times.

Read each statement carefully before answering. Each item indicates how often you behave in the stated manner on a scale of 1-5.



                           Almost Never                                                                                           Almost Always

                                   1                             2                          3                            4                     5                                                                                                             


  • I try to be understanding and patient toward those aspects of my personality I don’t like.

  • When something painful happens, I try to take a balanced view of the situation.



                            Almost Never                                                                                        Almost Always                                 

                                   1                             2                          3                            4                     5                                                                                                             

  •  I try to see my failings as part of the human condition.

  •  When I’m going through a very hard time, I give myself the caring and tenderness I need.

  •  When something upsets me, I try to keep my emotions in balance.

  • When I feel inadequate in some way, I try to remind myself that feelings of inadequacy are shared by most people.



                           Almost Never                                                                                        Almost Always                                 

                                   1                             2                          3                            4                     5                                                                                                             

  • When I fail at something important to me, I become consumed by feelings of inadequacy.

  • When I’m feeling down, I tend to feel like most other people are probably happier than I am.

  • When I fail at something that’s important to me, I tend to feel alone in my failure.

  • When I’m feeling down, I tend to obsess and fixate on everything that’s wrong.

  • I’m disapproving and judgmental about my own flaws and inadequacies.

  • I’m intolerant and impatient toward those aspects of my personality I don’t like.

How to score your quiz:

Total (sum of all 12 items) =

Mean score = Total/12 =

Average overall self-compassion scores tend to be around 3.0 on the 1-5 scale.


As a guide, a score of

1-2.5 indicates that you are low in self-compassion

2.5-3.5 indicates you are moderate

3.5-5.0 indicates you are high in self-compassion



If you scored lower in Self-Compassion than you would like, don’t worry.

The thing about self-compassion is that it is a skill that can be learned.

You may simply benefit from learning how.

Should you wish to be alerted when my next Self Compassion workshop is on please email

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